Pain Demands To Be Felt

Do you remember when Hazel Grace in the book ‘The fault in our stars' said to Issac that ‘Pain demands to be felt' when he was moaning over his ex Monica who dumped him because he was gonna blind after few days. It sounds ridiculous telling a person in the pain that pain demands to be felt.

But now wait a minute and just wonder what if no pain existed in this world. Neither physical nor emotional. Wouldn’t be our lives more easier? It would become more easier to get over your ex or sleep peacefully when you have a fracture in your arm. Sounds amazing. Right? 

Now just imagine you are walking bare footed on a beautiful morning and you get a thorn in your feet accidentally, but as you don’t feel pain you don’t bother about it but that thorn dive deeper in your nerves and you are dead another day. We feel pain not because it is meant to be like this. We feel pain so that we can do something about that, we can dive deeper towards the reason why we are feeling that pain and how we can stop it. 

Sometimes the pain is meant to make you stronger than past. Every ounce of pain makes you stronger than before. 

It may be really hard to sleep when you are having a headache or a fracture in your body. But this pain only make you to get up at 3am and get some medications for you so that the exact cause of pain can be vanished. It won’t stop until you don’t get to the root of pain.

But you know, mental or emotional pains are much complicated than physical pains. You have already arranged all sort of medications in your first-aid box in case of any hurt to your body.

But, what about the pain you get when someone dumped you or you couldn’t ace in that exam or you lost someone special for always. 

The most common mistake we do while dealing with our grief is that we just tend to run away or ignore it. The more we run away the more we feel empty inside. We are always told to keep our emotions to ourselves that sometimes we even lie ourselves about our grief. The best way to get over from this pain is to feel it. Try to find the cause behind your pain. Just find the reasons which are triggering it even more for you. It is only you who can help yourself to fight with this pain. You will have to own your pain first before saying it a final goodbye. The more you will learn to accept it the more you will be able to get over from it. 

Thanks for reading!